What is Anal Sex? | What is Female Ejaculation? | What is a Penis Ring? | What is a Penis Pump?

There's much, much more to anal sex than just intercourse! Millions of men and women, straight, gay and bisexual, have experimented with anal play. The anus is filled with nerve endings and is connected to the pelvic muscles. Did you know it even pulsates rhythmically during orgasm and there are many ways to stimulate the anus erotically. Many enjoy a finger or two inserted and gently rotated during intercourse or masturbation. Sex toys - butt plugs, anal beads and anal toys like the anal tool or smooth anal tool can penetrate a bit further than the typical finger. Anal sex is just one of many sexual positions that a couple can add to their routine. If this is something you or your partner has always wanted to try, here are a few helpful hints to keep things fun and sexy.

1. Communicate before you get started.
   It's very important to make sure both you and your partner are interested in trying this. Communication builds trust, which can make anal sex a very pleasurable and sexy activity.
2. Take your time.
   Taking things slowly can ease pressure for both partners when trying something new. And if at first things don't quite work, it's fine to try again later - during the same lovemaking session or another night.
3. Relax.
   This is sometimes easier said than done. The person on the receiving end who is going to be inserted into, might want to have an orgasm before getting started to help unwind.
4. Practice.
   Yes, practice does make perfect. The person receiving can practice doing kegel exercises - that is, tightening and loosening the anal sphincter muscles - at any time before engaging in anal sex. (Doing a kegel is like pretending you are holding back gas or a bowel movement, and then letting go. Repeat this five to ten times in a row, in sets of three to have maximum effect).
5. Work up to it.
   The inserter, can start with a well-lubricated finger before using a penis, or anal toys to penetrate.
6. Use a condom.
   Many STDs, including HIV and hepatitis, can be transmitted through anal sex. A condom is your best bet for playing safe.
7. Lube, lube, and more lube.
   Lubricant is vital to anal sex. When you think you've put on enough, go for a little more. And if you're using condoms, make sure you use the correct type of lube. Silicone lubricant like ID Millenium stays slicker longer, however an anal lube is your best bet as it is thicker, try Doc Johnson Anal Lube. You could also try an anal desensitizer like ‘Cherry flavoured Anal Ease’.
8. Breathe and communicate.
   Breathing helps make the insertion easier. Talking helps you each know what feels good and what you want more of, and what isn't working quite as well and you want stopped.
9. Try various positions.
   Side by side, or spooning, is often the best for beginners. It gives the receiver more control over the pace and movement. Many couples also try missionary position so they can see each other and rear-entry or doggie style for maximum thrusting.
10. Figure out what you like…and ask your partner to repeat it.

There are a few more advanced tips to having anal sex for the first time. Many people are worried about it being dirty, however there is actually very little fecal matter stored in the rectum. If either you or your partner is concerned, try an enema before getting started. It is, however, common for the bottom to feel the urge to have a bowel movement afterwards.

Thicker lubricants work better than thinner ones for anal sex. The anal tissues are very delicate and prone to tearing. These lubricants protect the tissues better during thrusting. Also, use plain condoms rather than the flavored ones, which could cause burning. Before using a toy examine it to make sure the are no rough edges that could scratch or tear the delicate lining, Also do the same for fingers as the finger nail is best to be kept short and filed smooth to keep free of ridges. Lastly, a sexy addition to anal sex is for the receiver, is to stimulate him or herself while the top is thrusting. Simultaneous orgasm is not only possible, but is easier during this activity!

-Some people are worried if there are any long-term effects of anal sex?
-Some ask how should my partner and I start the experience of anal sex?

No, there aren't any long-term effects of anal sex, although many people think that there could be a problem of anal stretching. There have been studies done that confirm there is no loss of muscle tone or the ability to contract the anal sphincter muscles with regular anal sex.

Here are some tips to help get you started:

1. Begin by using with a finger or a small sex toy (anal plug). Use plenty of water-based lubricant. Lay the finger horizontally across the anus. The receiver needs to gently push out, as if she / he is having a bowel movement, so his/her partner can pop a finger in.
2. When the receiver is ready, put a condom on with lots and lots of water-based lubricant. Thicker lubes work best because they cushion the delicate anal tissues.
3. Have the receiver take a deep breath before insertion. The receiver may want to have an orgasm first in order to fully relax. Talk to your partner about the pace, depth and rhythm as you're penetrating.
4. Side-by-side or spooning is a good position to start with. Face-to-face and rear entry are other common positions as you become more comfortable.
5. There has to be trust between partners to have anal sex successfully. Communicate your needs and ask your partner about his or hers so that anal sex becomes a pleasurable addition to your sexual repertoire.

Extra: If your partner is a woman, be sure not to go back and forth between anal and vaginal penetration because it can cause infection, a helpful tip for this is starting with a few condoms on to begin with and when you go to switch between anal and vaginal just take off the top condom.

ANAL ORGASM

What it is:
Anal stimulation can trigger the same nerve pathways as a deep-vaginal orgasm, so it will feel similar.

Want one?
With your fingers or his, start with light strokes just outside the anal opening, moving in slow circles. If you want penetration, relax and have him insert one or two well lubricated fingers about two inches into the rectum. If he's using his penis, have him go very slowly. To avoid spreading bacteria, he should wash up and change the condom before touching you again. If using a toy be sure to use lots of lube and start off slowly, change the tempo to the speed you like. Soon you’ll be shivering with delight.

TOYS TO TRY

Butt Plugs - these toys come in many different sizes, and colours, but have the same shape (narrow at the top, thickest in the middle, narrow at the bottom, and have a flared base to keep the toy from getting sucked in and therefore getting stuck in the anus). Butt plugs are designed to stay in one place as opposed to sliding in and out. Butt plugs can be used to train and relax your anal muscles. If you’re a beginner try the ‘Beginners Butt Plug’, or a ‘Jelly Butt Plug’. Doc Johnson butt plugs come in Small, Medium, and Large, to better suite different likes. Butt plugs can also come with ridges, you could try the ‘Purple Anal Plug’ or ‘Triple Ripple Butt Plug’.

Vibrating Butt Plugs - these toys can give a feeling of fullness, with inner vibration that creates erotic and exciting sensations. They have the same shape as mentioned above however, these come with a multi-speed vibrator, which you activate with a hand held controller. Ones to try would include the ‘Stealth Butt Plug’ or any of the ‘Red Butt Bandits’.

Anal Beads - these beads can come in all sizes and colours, from small to very large, and are strung together by a cord, if the cord is cotton, do not use more than once as the cotton will trap bacteria even after washing. To use anal beads, insert a well-lubed string of beads into the anus and during orgasm slowly pull them out. You could try ‘Anal Beads Large’, or ‘Jumbo Jelly Thai Beads’.

Vibrating Anal Beads or ‘Moon Beads’ - these beads are just like the ones mentioned above with the exception that they vibrate. The vibrating anal beads create that inner vibration feeling like vibrating butt plugs, however like anal beads, they heighten the orgasm when pulled out during orgasm.

Anal Probes - these toys can come in vibrating or non-vibrating and some come with mounds or a slender then wider shaft which allows the anus to expand or contract while sliding in and out. Ones to try would include the ‘Anal Tool’ or ‘Smooth Anal Tool’, the ‘Anal Probe’ as well as the ‘Beaded Anal Spectra Gel’ and the ‘Smooth Anal Spectra Gel’. If you and your partner would like to try at the same time you could always try ‘Anal Tool Smooth Double’.

Inflatables - with these toys, you can increase the pressure and therefore the pleasure. Simply use the hand held pump after the plug is in place. When using during intercourse an inflatable plug fills the rectum and can create a tighter feeling vagina for your partner. You could try the ‘Expando Butt Plug’.

Anal Kits - these include different sizes and shapes for your anal play, as well as vibrating and non-vibrating components. Different kits to try include ‘Little Butties’, or Julie Ashton’s ‘Anal Beginner Kit’.

Believe it or not, the female orgasm and female ejaculation were unknown until relatively recently.  Back in the 1800’s, if a woman was feeling aroused, her husband would take her to the doctor so that he (yes, all doctors were men in those days) could treat what was in those days diagnosed as “hysterical tension”.  Symptoms of this “condition” included irritability, a temperature and swollen pudenda.  And guess how the doctors treated their female patients with this condition?  They prescribed masturbation!  But the poor lady was not allowed to do this herself (this was deemed to be unhealthy and would rot the mind!).  Usually stimulation of the woman's genitals to orgasm was performed by either a midwife at the doctor’s surgery or sometimes by the doctor himself.  The husband and wife would then return back to their 19th century domestic bliss, that is, until the wife got overly aroused again.

Female Ejaculation: It is Possible and no it’s not Pee!!!

Female Ejaculation?  You mean women can ejaculate like men?  Yes, we can!!

Many of us women are simultaneously curious and timid about the subject.  Did you know that many women ejaculate already without actually knowing they are doing it?

It can be an intimidating concept to imagine gushing crazy amounts of fluid when you orgasm, but it can open you up to a new level of sexuality and can offer you the wildest, deepest, wettest orgasms ever!

As you might have guessed by now, the g spot is a big player in squirting – in fact female ejaculation is even sometimes referred to as g spot female ejaculation…g spot stimulation requires firm pressure be applied, therefore when using a g spot toy a harder one is best.

It’s helpful to know that some women experience ejaculation due to stimulation to the g spot alone; others can ejaculate with clitoral stimulation and others do best with a combination of both.  However, the g spot (with or without direct stimulation) is the key area as it becomes engorged and swells when aroused and thus sets in motion the release of ejaculate fluid.  Also, you still might be wondering what the substance of female ejaculate is made of, as well as where it comes from.  If you are like most people, you have probably heard that it is just pee, but this is not the case.  Although it is released via the urethra – the same tube we release urine from – it is not pee! In fact, many cultures refer to it as sacred female sexual fluid or “amrita.”  You might also have heard female ejaculation called squirting orgasm or female cum, but ejaculation and orgasm, although they can happen simultaneously, and usually do, are actually two separate things.

You might be wondering what exactly is this substance of female ejaculate?  And if it is released through the urethra but is not urine – which it is not – then what exactly is it?

It is interesting to know that men also release ejaculate through their urethra, the same tube they pee from. In fact, the whole process of female ejaculation is much like male ejaculation.

Confused at all?  Here’s a brief description of the process:

As a woman, when you get turned on, your whole pelvic area begins to get hot and aroused, and the glands that surround your urethra, (called Skene’s paraurethral glands) start to fill up.  This is why sometimes when the g spot gets stimulated; you may feel like you need to pee.  Many of these glands cluster to make up the organ known as the beloved g spot.  When you feel your g spot get engorged and protrude more into the vagina, it is the organ filling with female ejaculate.  The fluid will either get recycled into the bladder and will come out when you next pee, or it will be released through your urethra as female ejaculation.  At times this can mean a few teaspoons, and at others a cup or more!

You still might be wondering - is it urine?  The answer is, no, it isn’t!  It is a fluid that can be either “milky” or clear, that usually has little or no odour or taste, although this can change depending on your diet or where you are in your menstrual cycle.  The fluid of female ejaculate is a mixture of glucose, fructose, some hormones and acids known as PSA and PAP, with here and there traces of urine. OK – enough of the scientific stuff.

Although you now know a bit more about female ejaculate, many cultures have not only known about it since ancient times but have both celebrated and revered it.  In fact, it was known as “Liquor Vitae” in Ancient Rome, “The Third Water” in Taoist traditions, “Waters of Gaia” or “Waters of Life” in many different indigenous cultures, and is referred to by Tantric or Indian traditions as “Amrita.”  In ancient Japan, it was common for women to own “Ejaculation Bowls” for capturing the flow for later use.  And how was it used?  Female ejaculate is considered by many to be an aphrodisiac.  Many ancient cultures considered it to be a health tonic that had the ability to reverse the aging process, and so they drank it and made tea out of it.  Many traditions believe that both male ejaculate and female ejaculate are needed for conception.

OK, so even though most of us won’t be making tea out of female ejaculate, there are a few recommended essential items for your own exploration… Fingers and tongues are excellent, but consider adding #7195 Impulse Hypersonic G, #1234 White Slimeline G, #9953 Blue Worm Vibrator, & #9902 Danni’s E-Glass G Spot Lover to your bag of tricks.  And, because you likely don't want to have an ejaculation bowl like in ancient times, I recommend you put down a couple of towels.

To get started with female ejaculation, set aside some time to do the exercise we've written for you below.

A Female Ejaculation Exercise for Women

This female ejaculation exercise is for you – the woman - to get comfortable touching and stimulating yourself, and bringing yourself to ejaculation.  Leave about 45 minutes to an hour for this female ejaculation exercise.  You don’t need much – gather some lube, a couple of towels, a small hand mirror, and your favourite dildo or vibrator.  You may also want to pee before starting, so that later during the exercise, you know you are not peeing, you are experiencing female ejaculation.  During this female ejaculation exercise, feel free to use a small hand mirror to see what you look like touching yourself and ejaculating.

1. Take a hot shower or bath, and get really relaxed and comfortable.  It’s really important with female ejaculation that you be relaxed and open (you are, after all, letting something out!)
2. Set yourself up in a cozy and comfortable location, with several layers of towels underneath you.  You will likely want to be reclining or sitting up – lying down on your back will probably not allow you to reach your g spot.
3. Begin to touch yourself, using your fingers or a dildo or vibrator - any and all of your favourite techniques to get yourself really hot.  You can touch your clitoris, as well as your g spot.
4. Once you are intensely aroused, take a moment to find and play with your g spot. Reaching your g spot with just your fingers might be hard – it depends on where yours is exactly.  To locate yours, take one or two fingers (you might want to use lube) and insert them inside yourself, palm up, fingers hooked, and feel around about 1½ inches in, on the front wall of your vagina, just above the pubic bone.  You will likely find a pea or walnut sized spot that feels a different texture from the rest of the vagina.  Play with this spot, and notice what feels best to you.  Also try using your vibrator or dildo (again with lube) – it can offer much more access and control when playing with your g spot.
5. You can try the “withdrawing” technique of rubbing the g-spot directly in a series of 5 to 6 repetitions, and then withdraw fully your fingers or the vibrator suddenly; wait about 2-3 seconds and then repeat.  This can bring on ejaculation, and you often see this technique used in videos.
6. If it doesn’t, just keep heading toward orgasm, touching either your clit or g spot (or both), whatever works best for you. Either way, keep noticing the full or watery feeling you are likely experiencing.  If you bring yourself to orgasm, rather than stopping, keep touching yourself – see what happens when you go beyond orgasm.
7. If you feel like you need to pee, you are on the right track – but rather than backing off, push into this feeling.  Some need to relax to let the ejaculate come out, but others may find a need to assist with pushing out.
8. You are there!  You are not peeing, you are experiencing female ejaculation!  Don’t worry about getting the area wet – that is what the towels are for – just relax, release and let go.
9. Take a moment to appreciate your body and its capacity for such immense pleasure, and the amazing experience of female ejaculation.  If you didn't ejaculate this time, don't worry!  Think back on this female ejaculation exercise - what felt good, what you noticed, where you got stuck or blocked, etc.  Think of a few things you'll do differently next time, and then try it again on another day.
10. Practice does make perfect after all!  Experiment with how best to stimulate your g spot but remember that firm pressure is required. Don’t forget that g spot toys can help in many instances.

A penis ring is a device, made with silicone, rubber, metal, etc… with many sizes, colour, and shapes, worn around the base of the penis during intercourse or masturbation. What do they do?? Well basically penis rings work by limiting the amount of blood flow to the penis. In order to maintain a full and firm erection a penis ring is used to help hold all that blood in the penis. The benefit of this is that it allows a man to retain his full erection during intercourse and therefore increasing pleasure for both his partner and himself. Another benefit of a penis ring is it helps prolong sex due to the added pressure around the base of the penis, and preventing a man from ejaculating too quickly. As a result, a man who uses a penis ring will be firmer and larger throughout the duration of sex, not only that but he’ll last longer too!

Are they safe to wear? Yes a penis ring is perfectly safe to wear however; on the back of the packages there are warnings, for example:

• Deluxe Lasso Cock Ring Natural
• Hot Rod Enhancer
• New Magic Stretch Ring Set
• Diving Dolphin

These items say they are intended solely for sexual enhancement and not designed for any erection problem. Use of product should be restricted to no more than 30 minutes at a time. Allow 60 minutes between uses. Do not fall asleep wearing the ring, prolonged use of the ring (without removal) may cause permanent injury to the penis.

Now back to the question of ‘are they safe to wear? The amount of pressure a penis ring applies to the penis does not harm it in any way (when using an adjustable one don’t cinch it too tight), as it still allows some blood to pass through the penis shaft. Most penis rings are very comfortable and do not reduce the pleasures of sex, you do however want a quality penis ring made with soft pliable material (not a stiff, hard, or jagged one). Apparently, not only does a penis ring make a guy last longer, & maintain a full, hard erection, they can also make the guys’ orgasm more forceful and intense.

Should you remove the penis ring before ejaculation? The answer is yes as the sensations one receives after removing a penis ring (before orgasm) and just ‘letting go’ is absolutely incredible! Apparently these can be the most intense and longest-lasting orgasms one can experience.

Another use for a penis ring is with a penis enlargement exercise program. Why? The penis ring frees up one hand entirely, as well as providing better, even pressure to the base of the penis.

If you actually take a look at the different kinds of penis rings you will see there is a number of them in all different colours, sizes, shapes, and materials. Now the problem is finding the right one… it all depends what you are looking for.

There are ones with ticklers - these are fun! Helps the woman out with her orgasm as the ticklers are aimed for her clitoris. For Example:

• Wild sex cock & balls
• Pink tickler tips
• Cock-O-rama
• Bump or Prickly senso lovers

There are plain rings - these have not much to them, the metal rings should be worn if you are experienced with cock rings as they have no give and can hurt the penis. For Example:

• Rubber cock ring
• Metal cock ring
• Guardian (this is not a full ring but has the same effect as a full ring)
• Jel-lee magnetic cock ring (the magnets increase blood circulation)

There are adjustable rings - with these ones you can adjust the size and pressure put on the penis, these work if the penis is really big or small! For Example:

• Julian’s stud ring
• Ring of power
• Just ring it
• Dr. Richards ring

There are vibrating rings - These help with her orgasms as well as for his stimulation. Some come with bullets you can remove and play with just them, or use only one bullet in the ring. Some are wireless, but all are fun!!! For Example:

• Dolphin Erection Arouser
• Rockin Rabbit
• Two in one bumblebee
• Cock Tease Jel-lee
• Utopia rings (wireless)
• Sorbet delight cock ring

There are beaded cock rings - These ones help add pleasure for him. When the penis is thrusting in and out the beads can be moving around his penis. This means more pleasure. Beaded rings also can come in packages of three, which he can wear at the same time, these restrict blood circulation even more and this produces a thicker penis (I think with these you shouldn’t wear them as long as you would wear one). For Example: Pink silicone island rings The Triple treat passion ring Get hard ring set Ring my cock

There are leather ones - not the most recommended one as they can be uncomfortable to wear and difficult to put on the penis. Some have snaps these can be to difficult to close or require too much force, these can also pop open at the most inopportune time. We have the ‘Red’s’ products that include the Leather cock strap, etc… Depending on the size of the penis, these could be worn as a cock ring. When putting on a jelly, rubber, silicone, etc… penis ring you should always use water based lubricant to help keep the ring pliable and easier to put on. You really don’t want the ring to drag across the penis without lube (ouch!).

A penis pump is a cylinder that is placed around the penis; this cylinder has a hose coming from it that creates suction.  The suction draws blood into the penis, which creates an erection as well as increasing the size of the penis.  Penis pumps also have a special medical use for men who suffer from impotency.  Penis pumps can be used to obtain an erection and maintain the erection with a cock ring.  There are, of course, a lot of opinions on the issue of whether pumps work or not.  When using a penis pump short term, they would have a temporary effect for possibly several days.  If you are looking for a long term effect it would take commitment, just like body building; if you stop working out you would lose muscle mass.  When the airtight vacuum pump cylinder is placed around the penis, blood rushes into the muscle portion.  The muscle tissue expands, breaks down, and then rebuilds into larger and stronger muscles.  The length of pumping session and the frequency of pumping sessions are two factors that will determine the results.  With daily ‘pumping’, it may be possible to maintain the changes if you have the time to ‘pump’ often.  Naturally, the changes vary from individual to individual.  Most men will see more increases in girth than in length; it is difficult to say how much of an increase in length will occur.  While in the cylinder, the penis can gain as much as 2 inches.  The increase in girth should be greater and longer lasting.  A penis pump becomes unsafe when too much pressure is applied to the penis, this could result in temporary discoloration of the penis and result in blisters.  Remember to go slow and take your time.  If any pain is experienced, decrease the pressure.  When used carefully and correctly, a penis pump is perfectly safe. 

Remember…Everything is better with LUBRICANT!

Varieties Of Penis Pumps

Pistol Style Pumps (with Gauge)

What You Need To Know: 
Just insert your penis into the cylinder and squeeze the handle on the top, this will pull out the air and create a vacuum.  The gage has important value for anyone using a pump long term.

Style to Try:

The Magnum Pump

Total Erection System Pump

Bulb Style Pumps

What You Need To Know: 
Some penis pumps have a hand bulb that you squeeze, which forces the air out of the cylinder creating a vacuum.  Just insert your penis into the cylinder and squeeze the bulb for a long lasting erection.

Styles to Try:

The Fireman Pump

Doctors Choice Erection Stabilizer

Vibrating Style Pumps

What You Need To Know: 
Vibrating pumps work just like the bulb style with the exception that they vibrate.  This increases the amount of stimulation to the penis and can be used as a pump and a masturbation device.

Styles to Try:

Cyberskin Cyclone Force Pump

Dr. Cummings Travellers Pump

Plunger Style Pumps

What You Need To Know: 
Some penis pumps have a plunger that you push into its tube, this forces the air out of the cylinder creating a vacuum.  Just insert your penis into the cylinder and plunge away.

Styles to Try:

The Peter Pump Original

Remote Plunger Pump

Pump Accessories

What You Need To Know:

There are many different accessories out there for pumps including books (How to Enlarge You Penis Book), donuts (including Anal, Vaginal and Regular styles), creams (Peniform), etc.

Donuts are made out of either Jel-Lee material, or Passion Skin (feel real), these create a different sensation when pumping as well as creating a tighter seal on the pump.

Styles To Try:

Vaginal Passion Skin Donut

Jel-Lee Donut

Advice On Pumping

• Start by shaving the base of the penis and testicles back about an inch or more so that when the cylinder is put on a good seal can be established. 

• It helps to apply the pump with an erection, though it's not required.